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Hi there, thank you for taking the time to do a reading for me, I appreciate any insights you have to offer. I didn't really come with a specific question in mind, but am just looking for some spiritual guidance. Over the past while I seem to have lost touch with a lot of friends and have been withdrawing from people. A lot of the lost friendships are my own fault as I have neglected to return phone calls and emails and I'm not even fully sure why. I also question a lot of the relationships in my life and wonder how people see me and if they really like me. What I really want is to have a network of good friends that I truly respect and who care about me too. It might be important to note that I ended a five year relationship nearly two years ago, and have not moved on. My partner was also my closest friend, and the end of the relationship was a great loss although it was my choice. Right now, even though I am in a job that I enjoy and am surrounded by caring people, I do feel alone very often and stuck in a rut. How can I bring more enthusiasm and passion back into my life, and what is holding me back? Thank you again for your insights, Christina
Hello, Christina. This is Lisa Caza writing you. It is such a great pleasure to connect with you and your energy my dear, and I must thank you for allowing me this great opportunity to complete this reading for you today.
In completing your reading for you Christina, besides tuning into your own divine energy I shall be consulting with my spirit guides as well as your own, and I will also relay on any clairvoyantly-received information as well.
Christina, all that you have been going through: the disconnection and withdrawing from friends, feeling the lonliness, and even that of ending your five-year relationship … it all boils down to one thing … and sweetheart I really want you to realize that this is actually a very good thing to be honest with you. It is all because you are evolving Christina. I shall try to explain a bit better here …
You have essentially gone through (and you are still going through actually) a major huge leap in spiritual and emotional growth, Christina. The thing is, and this I find as interesting because this does not happen to too many folks, you have actually gone through this major change/shift TOO QUICKLY. This is why you are in fact feeling “stuck” or in a rut. You travelled so fast through your spiritual transition honey that you have essentially and quite inadvertently created a lot of confusion and misunderstanding within yourself.
You see, most folks, when it comes to spiritual growth and spiritual evolvement, it is normally a process that they go through – a process that essentially can indeed take people anywhere from a few months to several years. It is a gradual change – which should always be the case because otherwise this is what happens: the person gets overwhelmed and overloaded with way too much information – to the point where they feel like they have literally been left in the dark. It is actually Divinely meant that we learn and evolve at a slow but comfortable pace that is tailored to each unique individual … all for avoiding the possible situations described above. We’re not meant to get overloaded – because if we did then we wouldn’t know who we were anymore, why things are the way they are, where we are going, what we’re supposed to be doing, etc. etc. Just way too much chaos and confusion.
But Christina, as I mentioned a few moments ago – it seems that your own experience here with spiritual learning, growing and evolving did not occur like the norm. It’s almost like you blink your eyes and you’d miss it kind of thing. That’s how fast you went through the change process! But honey, all that I am trying to explain to you right now, this is the main cause and reason for everything that has happened over the last little while.
What you have done, of course very unwittingly, was prepared yourself for this spiritual and emotional evolution. I will explain further:
When a person goes through this spiritual growth and evolution, they essentially and quite drastically change into an entirely new person. Seriously. Their goals change. Their desires change. Their interests change. Things that they once enjoyed now bore them. Friends don’t see eye to eye anymore (because as mentioned that person changes into an entirely new being). Their values change. And … love relationships ultimately falter and unfortunately end up being unsuccessful because one partner is on a higher spiritual level than the other … they begin to not understand each other or even really know each other anymore, arguments arise, and ensuing frustration, anger and even resentment result between them. Things that a person at one time once found very amusing all of a sudden is now very maddening or annoying to them, etc.
Christina, what you have essentially done without even realizing it of course is spared yourself all of that emotional trauma that would DEFINITELY occur within all the scenarios that I just outlined in the above paragraph (including that of you ending that past relationship – which would have indeed been the most devastating to you emotionally – and it is also why you right now feel like things have been left unsaid or undone; and how you feel confused and questioning everyone, etc). You skipped through it – because you do have such a sensitive, soft heart). You skipped through all that … but sweetheart … those were lessons that you were needing to actually help you along with your entire change process … because those lessons would have helped you to not only figure out who the new you really is, but they would have also helped you to avoid this state of confusion and sense of being in the dark that you are now experiencing – because you would have followed the intended process … literally one step at a time … which would have made it so much smoother going for you. You would have been learning throughout the change process not only who you were becoming as a person, but also learning what you actually want for yourself in your life, what new goals you would like to attain, what new interests are laying in wait for you, and so on.
So now, what needs to happen here Christina; you need to take a few steps back here and you need to do a lot of major self reflecting and soul searching. You need to relearn all about yourself, what your desires, goals, interests, what type of people you would like to have surrounding you (you require connections with people of like-mind and interest my dear), and so forth are. And then, take on a more proactive position in bringing about more positive change and success in your life. You need to think about your interests … and pursue them. Think about what truly makes your heart sing with joy Christina … and follow that path. For example, if you are feeling stifled or unfulfilled in any way when it comes to employment, re-evaluate your interests and your assets/abilities/talents and cross-compare to what you are now seeing. Are your natural talents and abilities truly being fostered? Are you truly following your life purpose? What is your life purpose Christina? This too you need to learn honey. And the best way to learn what your life purpose is about … is to once again reflect over your interests, talents and abilities and combining them in order to create that sense of joy and fulfillment that you are so desiring to have.
This is the same when it comes down to finding great new friends and potential love partners, Christina. You need to surround yourself with like-minded individuals – people that have similar interests, talents, goals, and desires. This is just an example, but something like perhaps attending general interest groups or classes. Start frequenting places where you would most likely find the best-suited friends and love partners. But first, you need to learn about yourself all over again and learn what your actual desires, interests, etc. are now. They are not the same as what they once were sweetheart … and this is unfortunately something that I myself cannot fill you in on … because as mentioned earlier these were actual intended life lessons that you should have gone through – but essentially missed out on because of your spirit’s desire to protect your heart by literally skipping through the entire change process that was intended.
In closing Christina, once again I have to say here that you do need to sit down with yourself quietly and seriously and start to do some self reflecting and analyzing. Take a pad of paper and a pen and start to write down your true desires, your true interests, your values, your true goals … write down the aims/ambitions and talents/interests that make you happy and your heart literally sing and feel at peace. Once you have these things firmly established, it is then when you will be able to take solid action for yourself sweetheart and actually get yourself out of this little bit of a rut here.
Christina, you have so many positive, happy, and successful experiences waiting for you honey. I am actually feeling a lot of eagerness within Divine’s messages today – eager to see you start progressing once more. I want you to remember Christina that all that you did do though … .the disconnecting, the distancing, and so forth … everything that you just can’t figure out why you did what you did … my dear it was definitely intended; all of those things were eventually meant to happen anyways. It’s just that you did it “on your own” and just a tad too quickly when it comes to your psyche and basic understandings. And it was all for the sake of your spirit wishing to protect you from the emotionally hurt that would in fact occur if you were to have gone through the spiritual change process as it is normally intended (as a gradual thing … a gradual changing and learning process).
As a quick note – Christina … I want you to say this to yourself too: “Who cares what anyone else thinks about me? I am a strong, extremely loving, gentle and too kind of a person. If they don’t like that or don’t accept that then that is their loss. Not mine. I have better friends and loved ones that will be surrounding me soon anyhow.” I know that you are the type of person who feels that they need acceptance and to be liked by all. In all honesty I used to be the very same way – but the thing is I have learned over the years that you just cannot “please” everyone. It just doesn’t work. So you stick to what DOES work … and that is by surrounding yourself with people that DO accept you and love you for who you are … not for something that you are not. You’ve had a history of trying to change yourself (i.e. personality, interests, likes and dislikes, etc) all for someone else so that they will accept/love/like you. That is not what is considered as optimal … not for anyone my dear. You should not ever have to feel that you have to change yourself in any way, shape or form all in order to satisfy or please someone else - doesn't matter who they are. You be exactly who you are. Nothing more, nothing less. And you should only accept the same in respect to friends and partners Christina – and have those folks surrounding you that do support you and love you in all that you do. You will have this … but the first step as I mentioned a few moments ago is that of you sitting down and doing some serious self reflecting so that you can in fact learn all about yourself once again and all that you are in fact wishing for yourself and your life.
Once again Christina I must truly thank you for allowing me this opportunity to read for you today. I do hope that this has helped to clarify some of your concerns. But should you have any further questions or concerns, please feel free to write back. I would love to hear from you and talk about any updates that you may have ... and I wish to help in any way that I can.
I will be holding you close to my heart and remembering you within all my thoughts and prayers, Christina. I am with you in heart and mind, and you have my full support and love in all that you do.
With love and blessings to you always,
Lisa Caza
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